I am the first to admit, I thrive on burning the candle at both ends. I don’t always have it down perfect, but I am really good at rolling with it.
I had the whole summer off work yet I have spent much of it putting time in Pediatric Emergency, getting my clinical skills back up to par to take back to campus with me (and I am LOOOOVING IT). I am a Mom to an amazing teenager. I am wife of the DECADE! I coach at Valor Triathlon Project with my husband and awesome friends. I am in grad school, including summer, and I am a triathlete, priming for a swim focus and a brand new aspiring stand up paddle board racer girl.
More on that later.
I thrive on being busy. Here are my tips for “doing it all”.
Like the manifesto says, it’s not that you don’t give a f*ck, you just have to realize where to spend those f*cks. I figured out who to spend them on, and where to spend them. GAME CHANGER.
2. Just show up: We are in a society that loves to compete. We compete in how many hours we train, how busy we are, and how much sleep we don’t get. We are so busy being busy and spending Wednesday thinking about Saturday, that we skip over the moments in our lives that matter most. When it’s Wednesday… I show up on Wednesday. Yes Thursday is coming, I have sh*t to do that day too, but I don’t think about it. This was another game changer for me. Show up in all of the events of your day and show up for those only. Just like I show up for Wednesday, I show up for swim practice and swim practice only. Then i show up for dryland and dryland only. Then I show up for hang time with my family and that time only. Then I show up for my work in Peds ED and that alone. Show up and be there. Don’t even let your mind wander to what’s coming. It will come. And if it doesn’t….. then we are dead and it doesn’t matter anyways.
3. Love what you do. Unicorns shitting rainbows isn’t reality. Every day isn’t going to be the master of awesome. Many days absolutely kick my ass. Sometimes I am just freaking tired. As rotten as a day can be I spend every single day doing what I love to do, so even a rotten day is spent in good things. I love coaching. I love being a nurse. I love being in nursing education. I LOVE BEING A MOM. I love being a wife, I love being an athlete. I love being in grad school. So while I might have a crap day, at the end of it I get to do what I choose and that’s better than being in a factory.
4. I get enough sleep. For some odd reason, people are fascinated with the hours I keep. I could win the Nobel Peace Prize and someone would ask me “What time do you go to bed?” or “HOW do you get up so early?” I could cure cancer and that would STILL be the #1 question.
I don’t worry about the AMOUNT of sleep I get. I get great QUALITY. I am a nurse, I can sleep in the middle of the damn thruway with construction all around me. I can sleep on command. When I am out I am out.
I am WIRED for early mornings. I grew up a swimmer. That is how life went. I love the morning. I don’t drag ass out of bed and you know what? On the rare morning I do….. sit down for this one… I sleep in! I know! Can you imagine???????
I don’t watch TV (I am not over LOST being over…. slight scarring from the end of that relationship), I go to bed by 8:30-9 on most nights (sometimes I work later, gasp!). And I fall asleep within 30 seconds of hitting the pillow. I don’t judge my sleep on the amount, I judge it on how I feel the next day.
5. Eat well. All I can say on this one is, eat like shit, feel like shit. Period.
See? it’s not that complicated. The first one, is the most crucial!