There is a difference between living at your edge and finding your edge.
There is a difference between looking and seeing. Between listening and hearing.
There is a difference between forcing and working.
When you are on the path to growth, resistance is inevitable.
It is in these moments that real growth occurs. It is in our greatest moments of pain, that we find the courage to change. Pain is one of the greatest catalysts. For many, it is THE catalyst.
The hard part about it is that there is no instruction manual. We have to figure it out. We have to get messy and risk being sloppy. We have to stand at the edge of that diving board and not think, we just have to jump. We have to risk losing it all in order to find it all.
We have to have blind faith in something we are not sure of and trust that it will all be okay on the other side. Even though we can’t be certain that it will be.
That….. all of the above…. is what I love, and what I crave. It’s terrifying yet exhilarating. As I said, an instruction manual doesn’t exist. People have made millions telling you that one does. It’s your heart plan, or your dream plan, or whatever self-labeled dream guru wants to charge you three mortgage payments so you can attend their conference and hear about. You don’t need them. You don’t need their fire pit or their free PDF chart (free with conference registration).
You have everything you need. You have everything you have ever needed. You have it right now.
Don’t give that kind of power to anyone else in this world. It’s yours. You have the power and the ability to steer this ship. If you give them that power then you give up your own. You buy into their way of thinking and you ignore your own true north.
Don’t fear feeling lost, you have to be lost to be found. And guess who finds you?
You are the only one who can.
So get clear. Clear out the bullshit story that you are broken, or you are not good enough, or that you are not smart enough, not thin enough, not whatever enough. This is 2017 and we don’t buy into that kind of story anymore. Clear it. Land the plane, turn the page, hell… close the damn book and light it on fire.
You get one shot at this thing called life, do not waste it trying to live anyone else’s dream, anyone else’s message, anyone else’s plan. Get clear. Get quiet and follow your gut instinct. It’s not wrong. It never was. You were just somehow led to believe that it was.
I am calling bullshit on all of that.
You do have a dream. You do have a calling. No one else can tell you what it is or how to go after it. You have to work the process. You have to let the process work you, twist you, wring you out, and leave you in a heap on the floor. In those quiet moments of defeat, in those moments of rock bottom, in those moments of your greatest pain and “I don’t know where to go from here” I promise you the answer will not appear. It will hit you in the head, like a freaking brick. Be conscious enough to see it coming and be willing enough to listen.
You are your own guru. You are your own true north. You are the one who gets to captain this ship. Follow your gut and your heart with reckless abandon, heart and arms open, and see where it takes you. I can tell you from experience, it will take you forward. It will hurt before it heals. Don’t stop believing. Don’t give up on yourself. Believe in yourself more than anything in this world. Fall. Get up. Fall. Get up. Fall. Get up.
You will get there. We will get there. Know that I hold space for you, and I know you hold space for me. We don’t get there alone, even if it feels that way at times.
Hear instead of listen.
See instead of look.
Work instead of force.
See resistance as opportunity in disguise.
And above anything else…… believe in who you are. With relentless abadndon.