New Year, not new you

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From my family to yours, the Happiest New Year!!!!!

We all know that the New Year brings intentions to start something new, create old habits, disregard old ones. New Year New YOU after all! Here is my challenge. There doesn’t need to be a “New You”. You are amazing just the way that you are.

Adding something to your life to make it better? I will go with that. Working on improving habits and lifestyle? I will go with that also. Set a goal that’s scary and out of reach and you have a possibility of failing? That’s my favorite.

If setting a goal was a guarantee….. they just wouldn’t mean anything significant.

I am not into life hacking. There is no quick three step process to the things we want to accomplish. I am into the long hard grind. Where we rise and fall and the falling hurts but teaches us. I like to stand at that finish line, look over my shoulder and say, that was HARD, but man it was worth it.

That finisher’s medal means to much more that way.

And while I am not a fan of “life hacking”, I am forever curious about how to create sustainable change within our lives. I had to make very significant changes to my life in order to recover from Bulimia Nervosa. Part of my recovery is understanding that the very traits that caused me to make myself so sick, are the very traits that have helped me find success (which again was never a linear path).

James Clear has made a career of studying habits and how people change and exactly what people do to create that sustainable change within their lives. His new book “Atomic Habits” is a really good read, and not a guide to how to life hack your way to success.

I listened to a podcast he was on the other day and I found a few things he said to really resonate with me. Because I live in the health and wellness / athletic space my best analogies are here.

He talked about creating an environment that can support the changes you want to make. In my life, it’s very easy to be a competitive athlete. My husband is, my son is, our social network is. I can not imagine being in a situation where no one around me was interested in fitness and wellness, and starting a new exercise routine. Our bikes are set up so that we can always ride, a lot of what we do involves hitting races or just following them.

This is a terrible analogy but it drives the point home. If I wanted to start smoking….. my environment would be a very difficult one to start that habit in. No one would support it, no one does it. I likely would fail.

While it’s a bad analogy, I think you get the point.

So if you are in an environment that doesn’t support your desire to begin living a healthier more athletic life, then work on changing that environment. Maybe the people around you don’t want to jump on board with what you want to do, that’s ok. You can let them know that this is your aim and ask this of them “Please don’t try to sabotage this for me”, as James Clear advises in his book. I love that!!!!

So this New Year, maybe instead of focusing on the end goal (Enter your goal here), first focus on creating the environment around you that can make that happen. Over the years I have become incredibly process oriented and it’s created a healthier relationship with my competitive side.

This season I have set some big performance goals for myself. Instead of focusing on specific times, placings, etc., I have focused on the here and now. What can I do today to help me take a step closer. Those things involve doing the basics, recovering like a boss, sleeping more than I have ever slept in my life (parents of young children that day will come), and surrounding myself with the best team possible to give me the best chance at success.

This year…. instead of “New You” how about…. today….. look at your surroundings and make the changes necessary to help you make forward progress.

Here is to 2020!

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Mary Eggers

Mary Eggers. Mom and wife. 20 Years Racing Triathlon, 9 time Ironman finisher, 3 time Kona qualifier. Co-founder of Valor Triathlon Project. USAT Triathlon Coach and guiding RN students in academia. Cancer crusader. Rocking the mic at Score This! events! Currently based out of Rochester, NY.

Mary currently coaches athletes of all levels, abilities and experience from beginner to professional. Please see the "coaching" page or email valortri@gmail.com for more information!

By Mary Eggers

Mary Eggers

Mary Eggers. Mom and wife. 20 Years Racing Triathlon, 9 time Ironman finisher, 3 time Kona qualifier. Co-founder of Valor Triathlon Project. USAT Triathlon Coach and guiding RN students in academia. Cancer crusader. Rocking the mic at Score This! events! Currently based out of Rochester, NY.

Mary currently coaches athletes of all levels, abilities and experience from beginner to professional. Please see the "coaching" page or email valortri@gmail.com for more information!

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