To the non crushers

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I want you to know, that if you didn’t “crush” the pandemic, you are normal. It is ok.

I know you have seen the social media posts touting the miles athletes have racked up, the pinterest home crafts, the amazing home cooked meals, the pushups, the home organization, the…. everything. If that was not you, you are ok.

Maybe you are a single parent who was suddenly homeschooling grade school children while trying to make your shifts as an essential health care worker. Maybe you were laid off or furloughed. Maybe you…. maybe you just had a hard time.

I don’t want you to feel ashamed of that. I want you to know that not only are you ok, you are in the majority. None of us anticipated this happening, and there certainly wasn’t a script for how to navigate this. But I beg you… don’t let anyone… and I mean ANYONE to convince you that you are less of a human being because you had a hard time.

I think we all have to realize that we navigated this differently and as best we could. There is nothing but uncertainty ahead of us. Uncertainty causes us to try to shape our world into something that is certain.

As a triathlon coach I am asked daily whether I think races will return this season. To be honest, I still can’t believe the season was cancelled. I have no idea what will happen in our athletic world. While it seems so secondary to what is going on (remember I am a nurse so I have a pretty damn good clue as to what IS going on), for many of us our sport is a lifestyle. Many are really discovering their why for what they do, and it’s beautiful.

I don’t know what will happen for the rest of the season. I don’t know what will happen for 2021. I don’t have the capacity to even speculate. As I said, I can’t believe we are where we are right now!

But what we can do, is today.

Maybe today… you stop beating yourself up for not crushing the pandemic. Maybe today you allow yourself some grace. And then maybe you understand that one day at a time, is truly all we can do right now, for many things at least.

You don’t have to be David Goggins. You don’t have to be crushing XX burpees daily. Or climbing virtual mountains. If you do that stuff, you are awesome. If you don’t, that’s ok. The only thing you have to do right now….. is be you.

One of the big reasons I am starting a free beginner triathlete program (more to come on that), is so that you have the chance to begin small and build something for you. Small changes that can be consistently applied over time add up to life changing shifts.

I am doing that with the athletes I coach right now. We dialed back, dialed in. Added walking to many programs GASP! WALKING!!!!! Got back to basics. Took away the data. I have been at this long enough to know that all fitness is good fitness and we needn’t go over the line to build or maintain our health.

Health is the foundation from which everything is built upon. So we are plugging all holes in that foundation.

I encourage you to do the same, wherever it applies in your life. When making small changes to health and wellness….. I advise people to start backwards. Start with your sleep, the most critical and shortchanged piece of our health. Get that in line first. Then we move forward with nutrition and movement.

If you only have time for 10 minutes of movement per day, ten minutes is a lot better than sitting on the couch berating yourself for doing nothing at all. Tomorrow, aim for ten minutes again.

Again, small changes over time add up to sustainable results.

So, today. What can you do for yourself today? My only challenge to you is that when you think about what you will do, avoid a few words. Avoid the word only. Avoid the word slow. Avoid any negative word to describe yourself. While that seems so incredibly small and simple, stand back and see what happens when you change the narrative in your mind.

Instead of getting down on yourself for not crushing the pandemic, wipe the slate clean. You did the best you could, and if you are here to read this, it means you did great. Right now we have the luxury of time and we have nothing on the schedule set in stone. Take the time to make the small changes that can add up to big shifts, and understand this: resistance is opportunity in disguise.

About the author

Mary Eggers

Mary Eggers. Mom and wife. 20 Years Racing Triathlon, 9 time Ironman finisher, 3 time Kona qualifier. Co-founder of Valor Triathlon Project. USAT Triathlon Coach and guiding RN students in academia. Cancer crusader. Rocking the mic at Score This! events! Currently based out of Rochester, NY.

Mary currently coaches athletes of all levels, abilities and experience from beginner to professional. Please see the "coaching" page or email valortri@gmail.com for more information!

By Mary Eggers

Mary Eggers

Mary Eggers. Mom and wife. 20 Years Racing Triathlon, 9 time Ironman finisher, 3 time Kona qualifier. Co-founder of Valor Triathlon Project. USAT Triathlon Coach and guiding RN students in academia. Cancer crusader. Rocking the mic at Score This! events! Currently based out of Rochester, NY.

Mary currently coaches athletes of all levels, abilities and experience from beginner to professional. Please see the "coaching" page or email valortri@gmail.com for more information!

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